!2017 – 7 Ways to End Any Argument Fast

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7 Genius Ways to End Any Argument Immediately

Every couple argues, and this is normal. However, if a conflict is prolonged, it can lead to a deplorable outcome.

Bright Side shares how to extinguish a conflict so that you don’t regret every word of it.


7. Don’t criticize the person.

Criticizing your partner’s personality will only aggravate the situation, especially if you do it deliberately. Do not insult your partner, but talk about the specific actions that upset you.


6. Don’t discount feelings.

Speak your feelings and address the feelings of your partner, showing your interest in their emotional state.

5. Do not assume your worst thoughts are true.


Don’t think your partner is always up to no good when away from you. This can only provoke a new quarrel. Clarify the motives of your partner’s behavior.


4. Don’t look down on your partner.

Do not express your superiority over your partner. This way you show them they aren’t good enough for you. Suggest looking for a solution to the problem together.

3. Don’t look for someone to blame.

It is wrong to debate who’s guilty. The event has already happened. It is now better to spend time figuring out what the best exit strategy is.


2. Don’t recall old misunderstandings.

Reminding your partner of past arguments will not fix situations from the past, and it will provoke a new quarrel. Discuss what’s bothering you right away. After the situation is resolved, save yourself some grief and don’t return to it.

1. Remember there is another point of view.

Forgetting that both partners are involved in the relationship can cause aggression. Flexibility is always better: when you discuss both points of view, strong arguments come to the surface and draw attention from both sides.

Illustrated by Leonid Khan for BrightSide.me

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!2017 – ​SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE YOUR SPOUSE DAILY:

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​SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE YOUR SPOUSE DAILY:
 When it comes to giving,many married people are generous to everybody except their spouses. There are seven things you should give your spouse daily. This are not weekly , monthly or annual giving. They are things you must give your spouse daily. Let’s see them:. 
1. Give your spouse a touch: One of the ways to bond with your spouse is to give him or her a touch. We have encouragement touch, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch, and we have sexual touch. Study your partners and know what touch to give at a particular time. If you want God to touch your marriage, touch your spouse. Don’t let today go like that without touching your partner. 
2. Give your spouse a Space: As much as you need to bond with your spouse and be together for daily intimacy, communication, affection, planning, etc ,yet, you still need to give your spouse his /her space. There is time for couples  prayers, time for couples bonding. Also there is time for personal prayer, personal meditation, personal rest, personal planing, etc. Don’t choke  your spouse. Don’t be over- possessive and over demanding to your spouse. Stop unnecessary policing and monitoring. Give your spouse a space they need when they need it.  
3: Give your spouse a call/ chat: Some people can chat with all the contacts on their phones & all the friends on their friends list on Facebook. But they will never chat or call their spouse throughout the day. Chatting or calling your spouse in a day at work is a way of saying, ‘Dear, despite my busy schedule, I have you in mind. I am thinking about you’. Make sure you send a chat, or give a call to your spouse today. Make it a daily thing. No body can be tired of receiving a caring chat or a call from someone they love.  
4: Give your spouse a Hug: Hugging is fast disappearing in many marriages today. It has been researched that, hugging is one of the emotional needs of every human being. It is scarcity of spousal hug that makes many men to hug ladies who are not their wives indiscriminately. Many women too crave for hugs and they allow every Tom and Jerry to hug them because their husbands are not giving them hug. It might be in the morning, or at night, let no day pass without hugging your spouse. It is one valuable thing you must give your spouse. It could be a welcoming hug, a goodbye hug, an appreciating hug, affirmative hug. Hugging is a non verbal means of communication. Use it well. Don’t let your husband or wife crave for hug from strangers when you are still alive. Hug passionately! Hug romantically.  
5. Give your spouse a smile: God smiles on a home when couples smile at each other. A smile is a way of telling your spouse, ‘You delight me’, ‘Your presence amuses me’, ‘I am pleased with you’. Frowning at your spouse is not a thing that should last a whole day. One of the way to know your marriage is SMELLING is when you are not SMILING with each other. Smile. It is one of the best gifts you can give your spouse in a day. I love to smile alot and I love to see my Queen smile. I don’t like people who are not generous with their smile. It is free. You don’t need to pay to smile. Just relax your muscles and smile. Couples, smile , keep smiling! To prevent your marriage from smelling, keep smiling with your spouse. 
6: Give your spouse Peace of mind: The home is the end-point of every thing we do daily. Let me explain it this way. If you are a doctor, you can’t sleep in the hospital all the days of your life. You will need to come home. If you are an engineer, you can’t sleep in the site all days. If you are a lawyer, you can’t sleep in the bar all days. Even as a pastor, you can’t be in the Church 24/7. We all must go back home. Home is the end point. So, if your spouse will be excited to come home, it must be a peaceful home. Stop nagging, fighting, insulting, abusing,  threatening, and humiliating your spouse. Give him rest of mind. Give your wife rest of mind. Be the head of your wife sir, not the headache of your wife. Madam, be a wife , and not a ‘knife’ to your husband. Blessed are the couples that give each other peace of mind daily!   
7: Give your spouse a prayer : No matter how wealthy or highly connected you are, there are things you can not do for your spouse. You are limited. One of the ways to show love to your spouse is to commit him/her to the unlimited God. Say a word of prayer to your spouse daily. Every other things may fail and may not work. But no force can withstand  the power of prayer. You can’t heal your spouse, only God can heal him/her. You can lengthen the days of your spouse. Only God can do that. You can’t save your spouse. You can’t take away addiction and evil habits from your spouse , only God can do that for him/her. Pray to God. Mention the name of your husband/wife to God. As a man, you are the priest of your family, lay your hands on your wife, or hold her hands and say a word of prayer to her life. It is a major gift many couples find so difficult to give each other. Blessed is that wife whose husband gives a gift of prayer daily.  
Pray for your spouse if you don’t want him/her to become a prey in the hand of the devil.  
All this seven things you must give your spouse daily are very easy, simple, free and important. Put them on your ‘to-do-list’. Don’t forget to give it. Remember, givers never lack. If you give your spouse all these, I can assure you that, there is a high assurance that you will get it back.  

Share to bless a family.

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!2017 – How to Catch Different Types of Fish

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How to Catch Different Types of Fish

We asked pro angler Tom Redington how he lands prizewinning fish — and how you can, too. Here are his hints for catching various species of fish.


1. LARGEMOUTH BASS

bassTactic: Wacky Worm

Tackle needed: 4- to 7-inch plastic worm, size 1 to 1/0 worm hook, a few small nails (for weight)

Where: Shallow areas (5 feet deep or less) in ponds and lakes

Key spots: Near any “cover” or hiding areas like lily pads, cattails, laydown trees and docks

How-to: Tie the hook to your line and then run your hook through the middle of the worm. Push one or two small nails into the end of the worm. The slow fall of the worm makes an easy meal for bass, so use just enough nails to allow you to cast (fewer nails = slower fall = more bites). Cast your wacky worm and let it fall on a slack line when it hits the water. Once it hits bottom, let it sit in place for about 5 seconds. Next, reel up the slack in your line and hop the worm toward the surface with a couple of gentle raises of your rod, then let the worm fall back down to the bottom on slack line again. Let the worm sit in place each time for about 5 seconds, and repeat this 5 or 6 times each cast; then reel in your worm and cast it back out. When a fish bites, you’ll either feel a tick on the line or just see your line swimming off to the side. If either of these things happen, reel up the slack and snap your rod to set the hook and you’ll be hooked up!

Bonus tip: Use a weedless hook with a weed guard to help reduce snags.


2. SMALLMOUTH BASS AND TROUT

troutTactic: Shallow Cranking

Tackle needed: 2-inch or smaller crankbait that runs 4 feet or shallower, in natural minnow or crawfish colors

Where: Clear rocky streams and rivers

Key spots: Areas where fast current meets slow or slack current — behind boulders and laydown trees, beginning and end of rapids

How-to: Trout and smallmouth bass live in many clear, rocky streams across the country. Trout are normally found in colder streams, especially those starting in the mountains. Smallmouth live in warmer streams and rivers. Small crankbaits look like minnows when moving near the top of the water and look similar to a crawfish when they are hitting rocks on the bottom. Cast your crankbait upriver and bring your bait down with the current, reeling it at a steady pace. Fish are hiding around changes in the current, so steer your bait directly through these spots. Slowly crawl your lure through big rocks and trees in the water, and then pause it for a second after it gets past them. Many bites will come as you stop and start it. With a little practice, the bill of your crankbait will help it come through rocks and trees without snagging.

Bonus tip: The larger the bill on a crankbait, the deeper it runs. Try a few different models of crankbaits, and
select one that occasionally hits the bottom.


3. PANFISH (CRAPPIE, BLUEGILL AND SUNFISH)

crappieTactic: Jigging

Tackle needed: Small jigs that are about 1 inch long and weigh 1⁄32 to 1⁄8 ounces, in various colors and materials

Where: Shallow areas (5 feet deep or less) in ponds and lakes

Key spots: Near shallow cover like those for largemouth bass, spawning beds

How-to: Large groups of bluegill and other sunfish will spawn around cover in shallow water from late spring through summer, making for very good fishing. To spot spawning beds, wear polarized fishing sunglasses and look for groups of 10 to 50 dinner-plate-size dark circles in an area. Small light jigs work best on small fishing line, so tie them to 4- to 8-pound test line. Cast them around shallow rocks, weeds, docks and logs, letting them slowly fall to the bottom. Hop your jig off the bottom with small lifts of your rod, and work your bait halfway back to your boat or the shore with a hop-and-drop retrieve. Panfish and crappie are often aggressive and attracted to bright and shiny baits, so experiment with flashy jigs with some orange, yellow, pink or silver mixed in. Different materials have different actions, too; sometimes the fish like the subtle action of jigs made from hair or marabou, while other days the wild action of jigs with plastic or tinsel skirts is better.

Bonus tip: If the bite is tough, try putting a small section of a worm or adding a small minnow to your jig’s hook and let your bait sit on the bottom with long pauses.


4. CATFISH AND CARP (AND ALL SPECIES WHEN YOU USE THE BONUS TIP!)

catfishTactic: Worm and Bobber

Tackle needed: Bobber, hook, split-shot sinkers, earthworms

Where: Any river, pond or lake where fish swim

Key spots: Cast repeatedly to any place where you catch a fish

How-to: This technique is how most of us learn to fish and has probably caught more fish than all other baits combined. Tie a hook to your line and then attach a bobber 12 to 36 inches above the hook (shorter distance when fishing shallow and longer when fishing deeper). Crimp a small split-shot sinker on your line below the bobber. Depending on the size of the sinker and the bobber, you might have to use more than one. Use enough weight so the bobber will stand up, but not so much that your bobber will sink. Next, thread an earthworm on your hook, making sure to run the hook point through the worm a few times so it doesn’t fly off during the cast. Cast your worm out, and let it drift with the current or the wind. Cast up-river when there is current or upwind if not, and your worm and bobber will naturally drift down to the fish. The natural look, smell and taste of live bait like worms attract fish, and they find it hard to resist this combo. Fish will often nibble at the worm at first, so wait until the bobber goes under the water to set the hook. Big catfish and carp love this offering, which makes for a great battle. In addition, many different types of fish will eat a worm; you never know what you
might catch throwing this rig.

Bonus tip: Use a live minnow instead of a worm; this works for just about all types of fish.

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!2017 – Fishing 101

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Q & A and Knots

Q. What type of fishing rod would you recommend to someone?

A. The most versatile fishing rod is a 6.5-foot, medium-action spinning rod. You can throw little crappie jigs on it, live bait for catfish, trout spinners, or most any bass lure. If you are going to start with one fishing rod and fish for multiple species, this is the perfect one.

If you have a fishing question, you can click here to ask pro angler Tom Redington for an answer. He’ll respond to some of the questions on this website.
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The palomar is one of the easiest, most versatile fishing knots. Pro angler Tom Redington demonstrates how to tie it.

1. Push your line through the eye of your hook, then push it back to form a loop.

2. Tie a loose overhand knot.

3. Pass the loop around the end of the hook.

4. Pull on the line to tighten.

5. Trim the loose end of the line if necessary.

!2017 – Lethargy

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What Causes Lethargy?

Conditions list medically reviewed by George Krucik, MD, MBA



What Does Lethargy Mean?


Lethargy is a symptom that causes you to feel sleepy or fatigued and sluggish. This sluggishness may be in terms of movements or in thinking. You’re described as lethargic if you have these symptoms.

Lethargy can be related to an underlying physical or mental condition.

What Are the Symptoms of Lethargy?

Lethargy can cause some or all of the following symptoms:

  • changes in mood
  • decreased alertness/ability to think
  • fatigue
  • low energy
  • sluggishness

People with lethargy may act as if they are in a daze. They may move more slowly than they usually do.

What Causes Lethargy?

Many kinds of acute illnesses can make you feel lethargic. This includes the flu or a stomach virus. Other physical medical conditions can also cause lethargy. These include:

  • carbon monoxide poisoning
  • dehydration
  • hyperthyroidism
  • hypothyroidism
  • hydrocephalus (brain swelling)
  • kidney failure
  • Lyme disease
  • meningitis
  • pituitary diseases, such as pituitary cancer
  • poor nutrition
  • sleep apnea
  • stroke
  • traumatic brain injury
  • fever

Lethargy can be the result of mental health-related medical conditions. These include:

  • major depression
  • postpartum depression
  • premenstrual syndrome (PMS)

Lethargy can also be a side effect of taking certain medications. Taking narcotic medications can cause lethargy. You shouldn’t exceed your recommended dosage for this reason.

When Do I Seek Medical Help for Lethargy?

Lethargy can be a symptom that requires emergency medical attention. This is especially true if lethargy symptoms come on suddenly. Additional symptoms that may require emergency medical attention:

  • chest pain
  • unresponsiveness or minimally responsiveness
  • inability to move the limbs on one side of the body
  • disorientation (e.g., not knowing date, name, or location)
  • fast heartbeat
  • facial drooping on one side
  • loss of consciousness
  • rectal bleeding
  • severe headache
  • shortness of breath
  • vomiting blood

Any noticeable, marked changes in behavior accompanied by lethargy are often cause for concern. Seek immediate medical attention if you experience thoughts of harming yourself as well as lethargy.

Babies or young children can also experience lethargy. Symptoms in babies that may need immediate medical attention include:

  • difficult to rouse
  • fever greater than 102 degrees Fahrenheit
  • dehydration symptoms, such as crying without tears, dry mouth, or few wet diapers
  • sudden rash
  • vomiting forcefully, especially for more than 12 hours

You may also want to make an appointment at your doctor’s office if you have any of these symptoms as well as lethargy:

  • aches and pains that don’t go away with treatment
  • difficulty sleeping
  • difficulty tolerating hot or cold temperatures
  • eye irritation
  • fatigue that lasts longer than two weeks
  • feeling sad or empty frequently
  • irritability
  • swollen neck glands
  • unexplained weight gain or loss

How Is Lethargy Diagnosed?

Your doctor will often take a full medical history and then do a physical exam to figure out why you are experiencing lethargy. Obtaining a medical history includes discussing any medical conditions you may have previously experienced. The medical examination may include listening to your heart and lungs, testing for bowel sounds, and evaluating your mental awareness.

Diagnostic testing typically depends on what the doctor suspects may be an underlying cause. For example, if a thyroid disorder is suspected, your doctor may order blood tests to determine if your thyroid hormones are high or low.

Your doctor may order imaging studies if they suspect a head injury, stroke, meningitis, or other brain-related disorder is the cause. The imaging studies could include a computed tomography (CT) or magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) scan to determine if there are any abnormalities in the brain.

How Is Lethargy Treated?

Treatment for lethargy depends upon its underlying cause. Your doctor may prescribe medications to resolve an infection or to increase thyroid hormones. They may prescribe antidepressants if depression or another mental health-related disorder is the cause.

Remember that you can practice healthy habits at home to reduce fatigue-related symptoms if you experience lethargy. Examples include:

  • drinking plenty of fluids
  • eating a healthy diet
  • getting plenty of sleep
  • reducing stress levels

See a doctor if these healthy habits don’t help your symptoms go away.

Medically reviewed by George Krucik, MD, MBA on March 4, 2015 — Written by Rachel Nall, RN, BSN

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!2017 – Google S/W Engineer Rants Gender Gap etc. Gets Fired

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Update 7:25pm ET: Google’s new Vice President of Diversity, Integrity & Governance Danielle Brown has issued her own memo to Google employees in response to the now-viral memo, “Google’s Ideological Echo Chamber.” Brown’s statement, obtained by Motherboard, can be found in full at the end of this article.

A software engineer’s 10-page screed against Google’s diversity initiatives is going viral inside the company, being shared on an internal meme network and Google+. The document’s existence was first reported by Motherboard, and Gizmodo has obtained it in full.

In the memo, which is the personal opinion of a male Google employee and is titled “Google’s Ideological Echo Chamber,” the author argues that women are underrepresented in tech not because they face bias and discrimination in the workplace, but because of inherent psychological differences between men and women. “We need to stop assuming that gender gaps imply sexism,” he writes, going on to argue that Google’s educational programs for young women may be misguided.

The post comes as Google battles a wage discrimination investigation by the US Department of Labor, which has found that Google routinely pays women less than men in comparable roles.

Gizmodo has reached out to Google for comment on the memo and how the company is addressing employee concerns regarding its content. We will update this article if we hear back.

The text of the post is reproduced in full below, with some minor formatting modifications. Two charts and several hyperlinks are also omitted.


Reply to public response and misrepresentation

I value diversity and inclusion, am not denying that sexism exists, and don’t endorse using stereotypes. When addressing the gap in representation in the population, we need to look at population level differences in distributions. If we can’t have an honest discussion about this, then we can never truly solve the problem. Psychological safety is built on mutual respect and acceptance, but unfortunately our culture of shaming and misrepresentation is disrespectful and unaccepting of anyone outside its echo chamber. Despite what the public response seems to have been, I’ve gotten many personal messages from fellow Googlers expressing their gratitude for bringing up these very important issues which they agree with but would never have the courage to say or defend because of our shaming culture and the possibility of being fired. This needs to change.

TL:DR

  • Google’s political bias has equated the freedom from offense with psychological safety, but shaming into silence is the antithesis of psychological safety.
  • This silencing has created an ideological echo chamber where some ideas are too sacred to be honestly discussed.
  • The lack of discussion fosters the most extreme and authoritarian elements of this ideology.
  • Extreme: all disparities in representation are due to oppression
  • Authoritarian: we should discriminate to correct for this oppression
  • Differences in distributions of traits between men and women may in part explain why we don’t have 50% representation of women in tech and leadership. Discrimination to reach equal representation is unfair, divisive, and bad for business.

Background [1]

People generally have good intentions, but we all have biases which are invisible to us. Thankfully, open and honest discussion with those who disagree can highlight our blind spots and help us grow, which is why I wrote this document.[2] Google has several biases and honest discussion about these biases is being silenced by the dominant ideology. What follows is by no means the complete story, but it’s a perspective that desperately needs to be told at Google.

Google’s biases

At Google, we talk so much about unconscious bias as it applies to race and gender, but we rarely discuss our moral biases. Political orientation is actually a result of deep moral preferences and thus biases. Considering that the overwhelming majority of the social sciences, media, and Google lean left, we should critically examine these prejudices.

Left Biases

  • Compassion for the weak
  • Disparities are due to injustices
  • Humans are inherently cooperative
  • Change is good (unstable)
  • Open
  • Idealist

Right Biases

  • Respect for the strong/authority
  • Disparities are natural and just
  • Humans are inherently competitive
  • Change is dangerous (stable)
  • Closed
  • Pragmatic

Neither side is 100% correct and both viewpoints are necessary for a functioning society or, in this case, company. A company too far to the right may be slow to react, overly hierarchical, and untrusting of others. In contrast, a company too far to the left will constantly be changing (deprecating much loved services), over diversify its interests (ignoring or being ashamed of its core business), and overly trust its employees and competitors.

Only facts and reason can shed light on these biases, but when it comes to diversity and inclusion, Google’s left bias has created a politically correct monoculture that maintains its hold by shaming dissenters into silence. This silence removes any checks against encroaching extremist and authoritarian policies. For the rest of this document, I’ll concentrate on the extreme stance that all differences in outcome are due to differential treatment and the authoritarian element that’s required to actually discriminate to create equal representation.

Possible non-bias causes of the gender gap in tech [3]

At Google, we’re regularly told that implicit (unconscious) and explicit biases are holding women back in tech and leadership. Of course, men and women experience bias, tech, and the workplace differently and we should be cognizant of this, but it’s far from the whole story.

On average, men and women biologically differ in many ways. These differences aren’t just socially constructed because:

  • They’re universal across human cultures
  • They often have clear biological causes and links to prenatal testosterone
  • Biological males that were castrated at birth and raised as females often still identify and act like males
  • The underlying traits are highly heritable
  • They’re exactly what we would predict from an evolutionary psychology perspective

Note, I’m not saying that all men differ from women in the following ways or that these differences are “just.” I’m simply stating that the distribution of preferences and abilities of men and women differ in part due to biological causes and that these differences may explain why we don’t see equal representation of women in tech and leadership. Many of these differences are small and there’s significant overlap between men and women, so you can’t say anything about an individual given these population level distributions.

Personality differences

Women, on average, have more:

  • Openness directed towards feelings and aesthetics rather than ideas. Women generally also have a stronger interest in people rather than things, relative to men (also interpreted as empathizing vs. systemizing).
  • These two differences in part explain why women relatively prefer jobs in social or artistic areas. More men may like coding because it requires systemizing and even within SWEs, comparatively more women work on front end, which deals with both people and aesthetics.
  • Extraversion expressed as gregariousness rather than assertiveness. Also, higher agreeableness.
  • This leads to women generally having a harder time negotiating salary, asking for raises, speaking up, and leading. Note that these are just average differences and there’s overlap between men and women, but this is seen solely as a women’s issue. This leads to exclusory programs like Stretch and swaths of men without support.
  • Neuroticism (higher anxiety, lower stress tolerance).This may contribute to the higher levels of anxiety women report on Googlegeist and to the lower number of women in high stress jobs.

Note that contrary to what a social constructionist would argue, research suggests that “greater nation-level gender equality leads to psychological dissimilarity in men’s and women’s personality traits.” Because as “society becomes more prosperous and more egalitarian, innate dispositional differences between men and women have more space to develop and the gap that exists between men and women in their personality becomes wider.” We need to stop assuming that gender gaps imply sexism.

Men’s higher drive for status

We always ask why we don’t see women in top leadership positions, but we never ask why we see so many men in these jobs. These positions often require long, stressful hours that may not be worth it if you want a balanced and fulfilling life.

Status is the primary metric that men are judged on[4], pushing many men into these higher paying, less satisfying jobs for the status that they entail. Note, the same forces that lead men into high pay/high stress jobs in tech and leadership cause men to take undesirable and dangerous jobs like coal mining, garbage collection, and firefighting, and suffer 93% of work-related deaths.

Non-discriminatory ways to reduce the gender gap

Below I’ll go over some of the differences in distribution of traits between men and women that I outlined in the previous section and suggest ways to address them to increase women’s representation in tech and without resorting to discrimination. Google is already making strides in many of these areas, but I think it’s still instructive to list them:

  • Women on average show a higher interest in people and men in things
  • We can make software engineering more people-oriented with pair programming and more collaboration. Unfortunately, there may be limits to how people-oriented certain roles and Google can be and we shouldn’t deceive ourselves or students into thinking otherwise (some of our programs to get female students into coding might be doing this).
  • Women on average are more cooperative
  • Allow those exhibiting cooperative behavior to thrive. Recent updates to Perf may be doing this to an extent, but maybe there’s more we can do. This doesn’t mean that we should remove all competitiveness from Google. Competitiveness and self reliance can be valuable traits and we shouldn’t necessarily disadvantage those that have them, like what’s been done in education. Women on average are more prone to anxiety. Make tech and leadership less stressful. Google already partly does this with its many stress reduction courses and benefits.
  • Women on average look for more work-life balance while men have a higher drive for status on average
  • Unfortunately, as long as tech and leadership remain high status, lucrative careers, men may disproportionately want to be in them. Allowing and truly endorsing (as part of our culture) part time work though can keep more women in tech.
  • The male gender role is currently inflexible
  • Feminism has made great progress in freeing women from the female gender role, but men are still very much tied to the male gender role. If we, as a society, allow men to be more “feminine,” then the gender gap will shrink, although probably because men will leave tech and leadership for traditionally feminine roles.

Philosophically, I don’t think we should do arbitrary social engineering of tech just to make it appealing to equal portions of both men and women. For each of these changes, we need principles reasons for why it helps Google; that is, we should be optimizing for Google—with Google’s diversity being a component of that. For example currently those trying to work extra hours or take extra stress will inevitably get ahead and if we try to change that too much, it may have disastrous consequences. Also, when considering the costs and benefits, we should keep in mind that Google’s funding is finite so its allocation is more zero-sum than is generally acknowledged.

The Harm of Google’s biases

I strongly believe in gender and racial diversity, and I think we should strive for more. However, to achieve a more equal gender and race representation, Google has created several discriminatory practices:

  • Programs, mentoring, and classes only for people with a certain gender or race [5]
  • A high priority queue and special treatment for “diversity” candidates
  • Hiring practices which can effectively lower the bar for “diversity” candidates by decreasing the false negative rate
  • Reconsidering any set of people if it’s not “diverse” enough, but not showing that same scrutiny in the reverse direction (clear confirmation bias)
  • Setting org level OKRs for increased representation which can incentivize illegal discrimination [6]

These practices are based on false assumptions generated by our biases and can actually increase race and gender tensions. We’re told by senior leadership that what we’re doing is both the morally and economically correct thing to do, but without evidence this is just veiled left ideology[7] that can irreparably harm Google.

Why we’re blind

We all have biases and use motivated reasoning to dismiss ideas that run counter to our internal values. Just as some on the Right deny science that runs counter to the “God > humans > environment” hierarchy (e.g., evolution and climate change) the Left tends to deny science concerning biological differences between people (e.g., IQ[8] and sex differences). Thankfully, climate scientists and evolutionary biologists generally aren’t on the right. Unfortunately, the overwhelming majority of humanities and social scientists learn left (about 95%), which creates enormous confirmation bias, changes what’s being studied, and maintains myths like social constructionism and the gender wage gap[9]. Google’s left leaning makes us blind to this bias and uncritical of its results, which we’re using to justify highly politicized programs.

In addition to the Left’s affinity for those it sees as weak, humans are generally biased towards protecting females. As mentioned before, this likely evolved because males are biologically disposable and because women are generally more cooperative and areeable than men. We have extensive government and Google programs, fields of study, and legal and social norms to protect women, but when a man complains about a gender issue issue [sic] affecting men, he’s labelled as a misogynist and whiner[10]. Nearly every difference between men and women is interpreted as a form of women’s oppression. As with many things in life, gender differences are often a case of “grass being greener on the other side”; unfortunately, taxpayer and Google money is spent to water only one side of the lawn.

The same compassion for those seen as weak creates political correctness[11], which constrains discourse and is complacent to the extremely sensitive PC-authoritarians that use violence and shaming to advance their cause. While Google hasn’t harbored the violent leftists protests that we’re seeing at universities, the frequent shaming in TGIF and in our culture has created the same silence, psychologically unsafe environment.

Suggestions

I hope it’s clear that I’m not saying that diversity is bad, that Google or society is 100% fair, that we shouldn’t try to correct for existing biases, or that minorities have the same experience of those in the majority. My larger point is that we have an intolerance for ideas and evidence that don’t fit a certain ideology. I’m also not saying that we should restrict people to certain gender roles; I’m advocating for quite the opposite: treat people as individuals, not as just another member of their group (tribalism).

My concrete suggestions are to:

De-moralize diversity.

  • As soon as we start to moralize an issue, we stop thinking about it in terms of costs and benefits, dismiss anyone that disagrees as immoral, and harshly punish those we see as villains to protect the “victims.”

Stop alienating conservatives.

  • Viewpoint diversity is arguably the most important type of diversity and political orientation is one of the most fundamental and significant ways in which people view things differently.
  • In highly progressive environments, conservatives are a minority that feel like they need to stay in the closet to avoid open hostility. We should empower those with different ideologies to be able to express themselves.
  • Alienating conservatives is both non-inclusive and generally bad business because conservatives tend to be higher in conscientiousness, which is require for much of the drudgery and maintenance work characteristic of a mature company.

Confront Google’s biases.

  • I’ve mostly concentrated on how our biases cloud our thinking about diversity and inclusion, but our moral biases are farther reaching than that.
  • I would start by breaking down Googlegeist scores by political orientation and personality to give a fuller picture into how our biases are affecting our culture.

Stop restricting programs and classes to certain genders or races.

  • These discriminatory practices are both unfair and divisive. Instead focus on some of the non-discriminatory practices I outlined.

Have an open and honest discussion about the costs and benefits of our diversity programs.

  • Discriminating just to increase the representation of women in tech is as misguided and biased as mandating increases for women’s representation in the homeless, work-related and violent deaths, prisons, and school dropouts.
  • There’s currently very little transparency into the extend of our diversity programs which keeps it immune to criticism from those outside its ideological echo chamber.
  • These programs are highly politicized which further alienates non-progressives.
  • I realize that some of our programs may be precautions against government accusations of discrimination, but that can easily backfire since they incentivize illegal discrimination.

Focus on psychological safety, not just race/gender diversity.

  • We should focus on psychological safety, which has shown positive effects and should (hopefully) not lead to unfair discrimination.
  • We need psychological safety and shared values to gain the benefits of diversity
  • Having representative viewpoints is important for those designing and testing our products, but the benefits are less clear for those more removed from UX.

De-emphasize empathy.

  • I’ve heard several calls for increased empathy on diversity issues. While I strongly support trying to understand how and why people think the way they do, relying on affective empathy—feeling another’s pain—causes us to focus on anecdotes, favor individuals similar to us, and harbor other irrational and dangerous biases. Being emotionally unengaged helps us better reason about the facts.

Prioritize intention.

  • Our focus on microaggressions and other unintentional transgressions increases our sensitivity, which is not universally positive: sensitivity increases both our tendency to take offense and our self censorship, leading to authoritarian policies. Speaking up without the fear of being harshly judged is central to psychological safety, but these practices can remove that safety by judging unintentional transgressions.
  • Microaggression training incorrectly and dangerously equates speech with violence and isn’t backed by evidence.

Be open about the science of human nature.

  • Once we acknowledge that not all differences are socially constructed or due to discrimination, we open our eyes to a more accurate view of the human condition which is necessary if we actually want to solve problems.

Reconsider making Unconscious Bias training mandatory for promo committees.

  • We haven’t been able to measure any effect of our Unconscious Bias training and it has the potential for overcorrecting or backlash, especially if made mandatory.
  • Some of the suggested methods of the current training (v2.3) are likely useful, but the political bias of the presentation is clear from the factual inaccuracies and the examples shown.
  • Spend more time on the many other types of biases besides stereotypes. Stereotypes are much more accurate and responsive to new information than the training suggests (I’m not advocating for using stereotypes, I [sic] just pointing out the factual inaccuracy of what’s said in the training).

[1] This document is mostly written from the perspective of Google’s Mountain View campus, I can’t speak about other offices or countries.

[2] Of course, I may be biased and only see evidence that supports my viewpoint. In terms of political biases, I consider myself a classical liberal and strongly value individualism and reason. I’d be very happy to discuss any of the document further and provide more citations.

[3] Throughout the document, by “tech”, I mostly mean software engineering.

[4] For heterosexual romantic relationships, men are more strongly judged by status and women by beauty. Again, this has biological origins and is culturally universal.

[5] Stretch, BOLD, CSSI, Engineering Practicum (to an extent), and several other Google funded internal and external programs are for people with a certain gender or race.

[6] Instead set Googlegeist OKRs, potentially for certain demographics. We can increase representation at an org level by either making it a better environment for certain groups (which would be seen in survey scores) or discriminating based on a protected status (which is illegal and I’ve seen it done). Increased representation OKRs can incentivize the latter and create zero-sum struggles between orgs.

[7] Communism promised to be both morally and economically superior to capitalism, but every attempt became morally corrupt and an economic failure. As it became clear that the working class of the liberal democracies wasn’t going to overthrow their “capitalist oppressors,” the Marxist intellectuals transitioned from class warfare to gender and race politics. The core oppressor-oppressed dynamics remained, but now the oppressor is the “white, straight, cis-gendered patriarchy.”

[8] Ironically, IQ tests were initially championed by the Left when meritocracy meant helping the victims of the aristocracy.

[9] Yes, in a national aggregate, women have lower salaries than men for a variety of reasons. For the same work though, women get paid just as much as men. Considering women spend more money than men and that salary represents how much the employees sacrifices (e.g. more hours, stress, and danger), we really need to rethink our stereotypes around power.

[10] “The traditionalist system of gender does not deal well with the idea of men needing support. Men are expected to be strong, to not complain, and to deal with problems on their own. Men’s problems are more often seen as personal failings rather than victimhood,, due to our gendered idea of agency. This discourages men from bringing attention to their issues (whether individual or group-wide issues), for fear of being seen as whiners, complainers, or weak.”

[11] Political correctness is defined as “the avoidance of forms of expression or action that are perceived to exclude, marginalize, or insult groups of people who are socially disadvantaged or discriminated against,” which makes it clear why it’s a phenomenon of the Left and a tool of authoritarians.

Update 7:25pm ET: Google’s new Vice President of Diversity, Integrity & Governance, Danielle Brown, issued the following statement in response to the internal employee memo:

Googlers,

I’m Danielle, Google’s brand new VP of Diversity, Integrity & Governance. I started just a couple of weeks ago, and I had hoped to take another week or so to get the lay of the land before introducing myself to you all. But given the heated debate we’ve seen over the past few days, I feel compelled to say a few words.

Many of you have read an internal document shared by someone in our engineering organization, expressing views on the natural abilities and characteristics of different genders, as well as whether one can speak freely of these things at Google. And like many of you, I found that it advanced incorrect assumptions about gender. I’m not going to link to it here as it’s not a viewpoint that I or this company endorses, promotes or encourages.

Diversity and inclusion are a fundamental part of our values and the culture we continue to cultivate. We are unequivocal in our belief that diversity and inclusion are critical to our success as a company, and we’ll continue to stand for that and be committed to it for the long haul. As Ari Balogh said in his internal G+ post, “Building an open, inclusive environment is core to who we are, and the right thing to do. ‘Nuff said. “

Google has taken a strong stand on this issue, by releasing its demographic data and creating a company wide OKR on diversity and inclusion. Strong stands elicit strong reactions. Changing a culture is hard, and it’s often uncomfortable. But I firmly believe Google is doing the right thing, and that’s why I took this job.

Part of building an open, inclusive environment means fostering a culture in which those with alternative views, including different political views, feel safe sharing their opinions. But that discourse needs to work alongside the principles of equal employment found in our Code of Conduct, policies, and anti-discrimination laws.

I’ve been in the industry for a long time, and I can tell you that I’ve never worked at a company that has so many platforms for employees to express themselves—TGIF, Memegen, internal G+, thousands of discussion groups. I know this conversation doesn’t end with my email today. I look forward to continuing to hear your thoughts as I settle in and meet with Googlers across the company.

Thanks, 

Danielle

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!2017 – 365 Great Quotes for 2017

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Here are 365 inspiring, incredible and just plain interesting quotes to get the new year off to a great start.

Sunday, January 1, 2017

New Year’s Day
“I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear.”
–Rosa Parks

Monday, January 2, 2017

“Give me a stock clerk with a goal, and I will give you a man who will make history. Give me a man without a goal, and I will give you a stock clerk.”
–James Cash Penny

Tuesday, January 3, 2017

“A lot of the time the experts, the people who are supposed to be able to tell you what to do, will tell you that you can’t do something even when you know you can. And a lot of the time it’s your friends … who tell you you can do it.”
–Mark Zuckerberg

Wednesday, January 4, 2017

World Braille Day
“Life is a daring adventure or it is nothing at all.”
–Helen Keller

Thursday, January 5, 2017

“Don’t tell people how to do things; tell them what to do and let them surprise you with their results.”
–George S. Patton

Friday, January 6, 2017

True luck consists not in holding the best of the cards at the table; luckiest is he who knows just when to rise and go home.”
–John Hay

Saturday, January 7, 2017

“Victory has a hundred fathers and defeat is an orphan.”
–John F. Kennedy

Sunday, January 8, 2017

“Fall seven times and stand up eight.”
–Anonymous

Monday, January 9, 2017

“Life is 10 percent what happens to me and 90 percent of how I react to it.”
–Charles Swindoll

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
–Michael Jordan

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

“The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity.”
–Amelia Earhart

Thursday, January 12, 2017

“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says, ‘I’m possible!'” –Audrey Hepburn

Friday, January 13, 2017

“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.”
–Aristotle Onassis

Saturday, January 14, 2017

“I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do.”
–Leonardo da Vinci

Sunday, January 15, 2017

“The successful warrior is the average man, with laserlike focus.”
–Bruce Lee

Monday, January 16, 2017

Martin Luther King Jr. Day
“Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.”
–Martin Luther King

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

“If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else.”
–Booker T. Washington

Wednesday, January 18, 2017

“If there is no struggle, there is no progress.”
–Frederick Douglas

Thursday, January 19, 2017

“Running a startup is like being punched in the face repeatedly, but working for a large company is like being waterboarded.”
–Paul Graham

Friday, January 20, 2017

Inauguration Day
“I want to start by, as always, thanking my family. My kids, they’re not kids anymore, but they’re kids as far as I’m concerned. They’ll always be my kids.”
–Donald J. Trump

Saturday, January 21, 2017

Women’s March on Washington
“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.”
–Maya Angelou

Sunday, January 22, 2017

“Everything has beauty, but not everyone can see.”
–Confucius

Monday, January 23, 2017

“We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone.”
–Ronald Reagan

Tuesday, January 24, 2017

“For me, the most fun is change or growth. There are definitely elements of both that I like. Launching a business is kind of like a motorboat: You can go very quickly and turn fast.”
–Tony Hseih

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

“I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the water to create many ripples.”
–Mother Teresa

Thursday, January 26, 2017

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
–Henry Haskins

Friday, January 27, 2017

“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.”
–Milton Berle

Saturday, January 28, 2017

Chinese New Year
“Everyone has a plan ’til they get punched in the mouth.”
–Mike Tyson

Sunday, January 29, 2017

“I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took any excuse.”
–Florence Nightingale

Monday, January 30, 2017

“For small creatures such as we, the vastness is bearable only through love.”
–Carl Sagan

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

“The crisis of today is the joke of tomorrow.”
–H.G. Wells

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

“I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.”
–Kurt Vonnegut

Thursday, February 2, 2017

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.”
–Arthur Ashe

Friday, February 3, 2017

“Everybody wants to be famous, but nobody wants to do the work. I live by that. You grind hard so you can play hard. At the end of the day, you put all the work in, and eventually it’ll pay off. It could be in a year, it could be in 30 years. Eventually, your hard work will pay off.”
–Michael Hart

Saturday, February 4, 2017

Rosa Parks Day
“I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear.”
–Rosa Parks

Sunday, February 5, 2017

“Tough times never last, but tough people do.”
–Dr. Robert Schuller

Monday, February 6, 2017

“The trouble in America is not that we are making too many mistakes, but that we are making too few.”
–Phil Knight

Tuesday, February 7, 2017

“A year from now you may wish you had started today.”
–Karen Lamb

Wednesday, February 8, 2017

“Man is free at the instant he wants to be.”
–Voltaire

Thursday, February 9, 2017

“If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people.”
–Virgina Wolfe

Friday, February 10, 2017

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”
–Franklin D. Roosevelt

Saturday, February 11, 2017

“Conditions are never perfect. ‘Someday’ is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you…. If it’s important to you and you want to do it ‘eventually,’ just do it and correct course along the way.”
–Tim Ferriss

Sunday, February 12, 2017

“Nothing works better than just improving your product.”
–Joel Spolsky, cofounder of Stack Overflow

Monday, February 13, 2017

Lincoln’s Birthday observed
“Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other one thing.”
–Abraham Lincoln

Tuesday, February 14, 2017

Valentine’s Day
“It takes a strong fish to swim against the current. Even a dead one can float with it.”
–John Crowe

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Susan B Anthony’s Birthday

“Independence is happiness.”
–Susan B. Anthony

Thursday, February 16, 2017

“When I’m old and dying, I plan to look back on my life and say, ‘Wow, that was an adventure,’ not ‘Wow, I sure felt safe.’ –Tom PrestonWerner, cofounder of Github

Friday, February 17, 2017

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
–Anonymous

Saturday, February 18, 2017

“If you have knowledge, let others light their candles in it.”
–Margaret Fuller

Sunday, February 19, 2017

“Good is the enemy of great.”
–Jim Collins

Monday, February 20, 2017

Presidents’ Day
“No one has as much luck around the greens as one who practices a lot. –Chi Chi Rodriguez

Tuesday, February 21, 2017

“There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.”
–Edith Wharton

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

“Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it.”
–Dwight Eisenhower

Thursday, February 23, 2017

“A mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work if it isn’t open.”
–Frank Zappa

Friday, February 24, 2017

“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”
–Anonymous

Saturday, February 25, 2017

“I can say the willingness to get dirty has always defined us as an nation, and it’s a hallmark of hard work and a hallmark of fun, and dirt is not the enemy.”
–Mike Rowe

Sunday, February 26, 2017

“Death is very likely the single best invention of life. It’s life’s change agent; it clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now, the new is you. But someday, not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it’s quite true. Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”
–Steve Jobs

Monday, February 27, 2017

“Every truth passes through three stages before it is recognized. In the first, it is ridiculed. In the second, it is opposed. In the third, it is regarded as self-evident.”
–Arthur Schopenhauer

Tuesday, February 28, 2017

Shrove Tuesday/Mardi Gras
“An American has not seen the United States until he has seen Mardi-Gras in New Orleans.”
–Mark Twain


Wednesday, March 1, 2017

Ash Wednesday
“Lent comes providentially to reawaken us, to shake us from our lethargy.”
–Pope Francis

Thursday, March 2, 2017

Read Across America Day
“Today a reader, tomorrow a leader.”
–Margaret Fuller

Friday, March 3, 2017

Employee Appreciation Day
“There are two things people want more than sex and money… recognition and praise.”
–Mary Kay Ash

Saturday, March 4, 2017

“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.”
–Plato

Sunday, March 5, 2017

“Champions keep playing until they get it right.”
–Billie Jean King

Monday, March 6, 2017

“The last 10 percent it takes to launch something takes as much energy as the first 90 percent.”
–Rob Kalin, founder of Etsy

Tuesday, March 7, 2017

“Being able to touch so many people through my businesses, and make money while doing it, is a huge blessing.”
–Magic Johnson

Wednesday, March 8, 2017

“Always make a total effort, even when the odds are against you.”
–Arnold Palmer

Thursday, March 9, 2017

“As you start your journey, the first thing you should do is throw away that store-bought map and begin to draw your own.”
–Michael Dell

Friday, March 10, 2017

“We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained.”
–Marie Curie

Saturday, March 11, 2017

“I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.”
–Stephen Covey

Sunday, March 12, 2017

Daylight Saving Time starts
“Time is life itself, and life resides in the human heart.”
–Michael Ende

Monday, March 13, 2017

“Happiness is not the absence of problems; it’s the ability to deal with them.”
–Steve Maraboli

Tuesday, March 14, 2017

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”
–Dalai Lama

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

“The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.”
–Jimmy Johnson

Thursday, March 16, 2017

“Following is one of the most underrated aspects of leadership…. I have seen many a good [organization] underachieve, because someone…thought the commander was incompetent, and quietly worked to undermine his authority.”
–Admiral Bill McRaven

Friday, March 17, 2017

St. Patrick’s Day
“Creativity is intelligence having fun.”
–Albert Einstein

Saturday, March 18, 2017

“Little minds are tamed and subdued by misfortune; but great minds rise above them.”
–Washington Irving

Sunday, March 19, 2017

“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”
–Aristotle

Monday, March 20, 2017

International Day of Happiness
“Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle. Happiness never decreases by being shared.”
–Gautama Buddha

Tuesday, March 21, 2017

“A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him.”
–Sidney Greenberg

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

“Don’t let winning make you soft. Don’t let losing make you quite. Don’t let your teammates down in any situation.”
–Larry Bird

Thursday, March 23, 2017

“I watched a small man with thick calluses on both hands work 15 and 16 hours a day. I saw him once literally bleed from the bottoms of his feet, a man who came here uneducated, alone, unable to speak the language, who taught me all I needed to know about faith and hard work by the simple eloquence of his example.”
–Mario Cuomo

Friday, March 24, 2017

“The best revenge is massive success.”
–Frank Sinatra

Saturday, March 25, 2017

“We learn wisdom from failure much more than from success; we often discover what will do, by finding out what will not do; and probably he who never make a mistake never made a discovery.”
–Samuel Smiles

Sunday, March 26, 2017

“Fearlessness is like a muscle. I know from my own life that the more I exercise it, the more natural it becomes to not let my fears run me. –Arianna Huffington

Monday, March 27, 2017

“I don’t lose any sleep at night over the potential for failure. I cannot even spell the word.”
–James Mattis

Tuesday, March 28, 2017

“If you can dream it, you can achieve it.”
–Zig Ziglar

Wednesday, March 29, 2017

“You can be the ripest, juciest peach in the world, and there are still going to be some people who hate peaches.”
–Dita Von Teese

Thursday, March 30, 2017

“There are no traffic jams along the extra mile.”
–Roger Staubach

Friday, March 31, 2017

César Chávez Day
“There is no substitute for hard work, 23 or 24 hours a day. And there is no substitute for patience and acceptance.”
–Cesar Chavez

Saturday, April 1, 2017

April Fool’s Day
“I learned pretty soon that it was essential to fail and be foolish. –Daniel DayLewis, only threetime winner of the Academy Award for Best Actor

Sunday, April 2, 2017

“The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into smaller manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.”
–Mark Twain

Monday, April 3, 2017

“It’s hard work making movies. It’s like being a doctor: you work long hours, very hard hours, and it’s emotional, tense work. If you don’t really love it, then it ain’t worth it.”
–George Lucas

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

“Being an optimist after you’ve got the very thing you want doesn’t count.”
–Ken Hubbard

Wednesday, April 5, 2017

“You know you’re in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
–Dr. Seuss

Thursday, April 6, 2017

“Numbing the pain for a while will only make it worse when you finally feel it.”
–Albus Dumbledore, “Harry Potter” character

Friday, April 7, 2017

“We must never be afraid to go too far, for success lies just beyond.”
–Marcel Proust

Saturday, April 8, 2017

“There are two kinds of failures: those who thought and never did, and those who did and never thought.”
–Laurence J. Peter

Sunday, April 9, 2017

“I’m a designer, and I work very hard at that. People sometimes want to put down fashion by saying it’s frivolous or superficial, but it’s not that way at all. It’s actually very hard work.”
–Donatella Versace

Monday, April 10, 2017

“Success at the highest level comes down to one question: Can you decide that your happiness can come from someone else’s success? –Bill Walton

Tuesday, April 11, 2017

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”
–Sir Winston Churchill

Wednesday, April 12, 2017

International Day of Human Space Flight
“It’s a very sobering feeling to be up in space and realize that one’s safety factor was determined by the lowest bidder on a government contract.”
–Alan Shepard

Thursday, April 13, 2017

Thomas Jefferson’s Birthday
“We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.”
–Thomas Jefferson

Friday, April 14, 2017

“Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs – even though checkered by failure – than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat.”
–Theodore Roosevelt

Saturday, April 15, 2017

“May I never be complete. May I never be content. May I never be perfect.”
–Chuck Palahniuk

Sunday, April 16, 2017

Easter Sunday
“Easter spells out beauty, the rare beauty of new life.” –S. D Gordon

Monday, April 17, 2017

Emancipation Day observed
“I freed a thousand slaves I could have freed a thousand more if only they knew they were slaves.”
–Harriet Tubman

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Tax Day
“Taxes are what we pay for civilized society.”
–Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr.”

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

“Yes, I am a dreamer. For a dreamer is one who can find his way by moonlight, and see the dawn before the rest of the world.”
–Oscar Wilde

Thursday, April 20, 2017

Chinese Language Day
“I was eating in a Chinese restaurant downtown. There was a dish called Mother and Child Reunion. It’s chicken and eggs. And I said, I gotta use that one.”
–Paul Simon

Friday, April 21, 2017

“The best way out is always through.”
–Robert Frost

Saturday, April 22, 2017

“There is only one boss: the customer. And he can fire everybody in the company, from the chairman on down, simply by spending his money somewhere else. –Sam Walton

Sunday, April 23, 2017

World Book and Copyright Day
“Whenever you read a good book, somewhere in the world a door opens to allow in more light.”
–Vera Nazarian

Monday, April 24, 2017

“Power means happiness; power means hard work and sacrifice.”
–Beyonce Knowles

Tuesday, April 25, 2017

“Death is something inevitable. When a man has done what he considers to be his duty to his people and his country, he can rest in peace. I believe I have made that effort and that is, therefore, why I will sleep for the eternity.”
–Nelson Mandella

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

“When I work fourteen hours a day, seven days a week, I get lucky.”
–Dr. Armand Hammer

Thursday, April 27, 2017

Take our Daughters and Sons to Work Day
“Do not bring people in your life who weigh you down. And trust your instincts … good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don’t hurt. They’re not painful. That’s not just with somebody you want to marry, but it’s with the friends that you choose. It’s with the people you surround yourselves with.”
–Michelle Obama

Friday, April 28, 2017

“It’s hard work to make a four-minute program look effortless and elegant.”
–Katarina Witt

Saturday, April 29, 2017

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”
–Les Brown

Sunday, April 30, 2017

International Jazz Day
“Jazz is smooth and cool. Jazz is rage. Jazz flows like water. Jazz never seems to begin or end. Jazz isn’t methodical, but jazz isn’t messy either. Jazz is a conversation, a give and take. Jazz is the connection and communication between musicians. Jazz is abandon.”
–Nat Wolff

Monday, May 1, 2017

“[W]ith extreme wealth comes extreme responsibility. And the responsibility for me is to invest in creating new businesses, create jobs, employ people, and to put money aside to tackle issues where we can make a difference.”
–Richard Branson

Tuesday, May 2, 2017

“You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take.”
–Wayne Gretzky

Wednesday, May 3, 2017

World Press Freedom Day
“Four hostile newspapers are more to be feared than a thousand bayonets.”
–Napoleon Bonaparte

Thursday, May 4, 2017

Rhode Island Independence Day
“The greatest crime in the world is not developing your potential. When you do what you do best, you are helping not only yourself, but the world.”
–Roger Williams (founder of Rhode Island, which is your humble writer’s home state)

Friday, May 5, 2017

National Nurses Day
“Nursing encompasses an art, a humanistic orientation, a feeling for the value of the individual, and an intuitive sense of ethics, and of the appropriateness of action taken.”
–Myrtle Aydelotte

Saturday, May 6, 2017

“There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.”
–Colin Powell

Sunday, May 7, 2017

“I honestly think it is better to be a failure at something you love than to be a success at something you hate.”
–George Burns

Monday, May 8, 2017

Truman Day
“It is amazing what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit.”
–Harry S. Truman

Tuesday, May 9, 2017

“When you find an idea that you just can’t stop thinking about, that’s probably a good one to pursue.”
–Josh James

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

“What is harder than rock, or softer than water? Yet soft water hollows out hard rock. Persevere.”
–Ovid

Thursday, May 11, 2017

“Winners are the ones who really listen to the truth of their hearts.”
–Sylvester Stalone

Friday, May 12, 2017

“Everything has beauty, but not everyone can see.”
–Confucius

Saturday, May 13, 2017

“If you aren’t going all the way, why go at all? –Joe Namath

Sunday, May 14, 2017

Mother’s Day
“An ounce of mother is worth a pound of clergy.”
–Rudyard Kipling

Monday, May 15, 2017

Peace Officers Memorial Day
“Police officers and firemen are so visible in their daily work, there’s no mistaking they’re there – and that presence makes people feel secure.”
–Irwin Redlener

Tuesday, May 16, 2017

“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
–Maya Angelou

Wednesday, May 17, 2017

“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
–Bob Marley

Thursday, May 18, 2017

“The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.”
–Ayn Rand

Friday, May 19, 2017

“When I was in jail, I was a lot of people’s favorite person. I practically ran the jail. I had more freedom than the police.”
–Flavor Flav

Saturday, May 20, 2017

Armed Forces Day
“Whoever said the pen is mightier than the sword obviously never encountered automatic weapons.”
–Douglas MacArthur

Sunday, May 21, 2017

“You must not only aim right, but draw the bow with all your might.”
–Henry David Thoreau

Monday, May 22, 2017

Harvey Milk Day
“Hope will never be silent.”
–Harvey Milk

Tuesday, May 23, 2017

“I never took a day off in my 20s. Not one.”
–Bill Gates

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

“The true test of character is not how much we know how to do, but how we behave when we don’t know what to do.”
–John Holt

Thursday, May 25, 2017

“What we hope to do with ease, we must first learn to do with diligence.”
–Samuel Johnson

Friday, May 26, 2017

“Always look for the fool in the deal. If you don’t find one, it’s you.”
–Mark Cuban

Saturday, May 27, 2017

Ramadan starts “Sometimes you don’t realize how special something is until you lose it. Thats how I feel about Ramadan every year.”
–Omar Suleiman

Sunday, May 28, 2017

“I know you’ve heard it a thousand times before. But it’s true–hard work pays off. If you want to be good, you have to practice, practice, practice. If you don’t love something, then don’t do it.”
–Ray Bradbury

Monday, May 29, 2017

Memorial Day
“Who sows virtue reaps honor.”
–Leonardy da Vinci

Tuesday, May 30, 2017

“It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently.”
–Warren Buffet

Wednesday, May 31, 2017

World No Tobacco Day
“Giving up smoking is the easiest thing in the world. I know because I’ve done it thousands of times.”
–Mark Twain

Thursday, June 1, 2017

“We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars. –Oscar Wilde

Friday, June 2, 2017

“The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.”
–Anonymous

Saturday, June 3, 2017

“I know the price of success: dedication, hard work and an unremitting devotion to the things you want to see happen.”
–Frank Lloyd Wright

Sunday, June 4, 2017

“Happiness is an inside job.”
–Anonymous

Monday, June 5, 2017

“Everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.”
–Andy Rooney

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

D-Day
There on the beaches of Normandy I began to reflect on the wonders of these ordinary people whose lives were laced with the markings of greatness.”
–Tom Brokaw

Wednesday, June 7, 2017

“Fall seven times and stand up eight.”
–Anonymous

Thursday, June 8, 2017

“Life doesn’t run away from nobody. Life runs at people.”
–Joe Frazier

Friday, June 9, 2017

“I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing that you are the beholder.”
–Salma Hayek

Saturday, June 10, 2017

“The road to success is not easy to navigate, but with hard work, drive and passion, it’s possible to achieve the American dream.”
–Tommy Hilfiger

Sunday, June 11, 2017

“Empty pockets never held anyone back. Only empty heads and empty hearts can do that.”
–Norman Vincent Peale

Monday, June 12, 2017

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.”
–Anne Frank

Tuesday, June 13, 2017

“I don’t look to jump over 7-foot bars-I look for 1-foot bars that I can step over.”
–Warren Buffett

Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Army Birthday (also Flag Day)
“I am not afraid of an army of lions led by a sheep; I am afraid of an army of sheep led by a lion.”
–Alexander the Great

Thursday, June 15, 2017

“Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted.”
–William Bruce Cameron

Friday, June 16, 2017

“Nothing is more expensive than a missed opportunity.”
–H. Jackson Brown Jr.”

Saturday, June 17, 2017

“I think in terms of evolutions, not revolutions. Failure is not part of my vocabulary.”
–Shelia Lirio Marcelo, founder of Care.com

Sunday, June 18, 2017

Father’s Day
“I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.”
–Sigmund Freud

Monday, June 19, 2017

“The best way to predict the future is to invent it.”
–Alan Kay

Tuesday, June 20, 2017

“Even if you fall on your face, you’re still moving forward.”
–Victor Kiam

Wednesday, June 21, 2017

“The more I want to get something done, the less I call it work.”
–Richard Bach

Thursday, June 22, 2017

“There is no such thing as luck. There is only adequate or inadequate preparation to cope with a statistical universe. –Robert A. Heinlein

Friday, June 23, 2017

“It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.”
–Seneca

Saturday, June 24, 2017

“I wish I could tell you the secret to being forever young, but no one’s figured that out yet. But if you see the glass half full, simplify your life, and give yourself to a worthy cause, you will be forever happy.”
–Bert Jacobs

Sunday, June 25, 2017

“Some of the world’s greatest feats were accomplished by people not smart enough to know they were impossible.”
–Doug Larson

Monday, June 26, 2017

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.”
–George Elliott

Tuesday, June 27, 2017

“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.”
–Maya Angelou

Wednesday, June 28, 2017

“Plant your garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.”
–Jose Luis Borges

Thursday, June 29, 2017

“It doesn’t matter how far you might rise. At some point, you are bound to stumble…. If you’re constantly pushing yourself higher…the law of averages, not to mention the Myth of Icarus, predicts that you will at some point fall. And when you do, I want you to know this, remember this: There is no such thing as failure. Failure is just life trying to move us in another direction.”
–Oprah Winfrey

Friday, June 30, 2017

“Running a startup is like eating glass. You just start to like the taste of your own blood.”
–Sean Parker

Saturday, July 1, 2017

“Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The phrase ‘press on’ has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.”
–Calvin Coolidge

Sunday, July 2, 2017

“Build something 100 people love, not something 1 million people kind of like.”
–Brian Chesky, cofounder of Airbnb

Monday, July 3, 2017

“There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.”
–Aristotle

Tuesday, July 4, 2017

Independence Day
“America was not built on fear. America was built on courage, on imagination and an unbeatable determination to do the job at hand.”
–Harry S Truman

Wednesday, July 5, 2017

“No matter what people tell you, words and ideas can change the world.”
–Robin Williams

Thursday, July 6, 2017

“Life is a series of problem-solving opportunities. The problems you face will either defeat you or develop you depending on how you respond to them.”
–Rick Warren

Friday, July 7, 2017

“Don’t worry about failure; you only have to be right once.”
–Drew Houston

Saturday, July 8, 2017

“Obstacles can’t stop you. Problems can’t stop you. Most of all, other people can’t stop you. Only you can stop you.”
–Jeffrey Gitomer

Sunday, July 9, 2017

“Think of how stupid the average person is, and realize half of them are stupider than that.”
–George Carlin

Monday, July 10, 2017

“Happiness is not a goal. It’s a by-product of a life well-lived.”
–Eleanor Roosevelt

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

“Embrace what you don’t know, especially in the beginning, because what you don’t know can become your greatest asset. It ensures that you will absolutely be doing things different from everybody else.”
–Sara Blakely

Wednesday, July 12, 2017

“I knew all the rules but the rules did not know me.”
–Eddie Vedder

Thursday, July 13, 2017

“You don’t become enormously successful without encountering some really interesting problems.”
–Mark Victor Hansen

Friday, July 14, 2017

“Yesterday’s home runs don’t win today’s games.”
–Babe Ruth

Saturday, July 15, 2017

“You never know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from.”
–Cormac McCarthy

Sunday, July 16, 2017

“Just keep going. Everybody gets better if they keep at it.”
–Ted Williams

Monday, July 17, 2017

“Education, actual learning–it is hard work. It’s very personal. Your parents don’t teach you anything. Your teachers don’t teach you anything. The government doesn’t teach you anything. You read it. You don’t understand it; you read it again. You break a pencil and read it again.”
–Dean Kamen

Tuesday, July 18, 2017

“Composing music is hard work.”
–John Williams

Wednesday, July 19, 2017

“If I have made a mistake in the design, then I’m the one who should pay for it. I certainly would not ask somebody else to fly a plane if I were afraid to do it myself.”
–Howard Hughes

Thursday, July 20, 2017

“Constant dripping hollows out a stone.”
–Lucretius

Friday, July 21, 2017

“Once you choose hope, anything’s possible.”
–Christopher Reeve

Saturday, July 22, 2017

“Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.”
–William B. Sprague

Sunday, July 23, 2017

“If you’re offered a seat on a rocket ship, don’t ask what seat! Just get on.”
–Sheryl Sandberg

Monday, July 24, 2017

“I do not know anyone who has got to the top without hard work. That is the recipe. It will not always get you to the top, but should get you pretty near.”
–Margaret Thatcher

Tuesday, July 25, 2017

“There is no security on the Earth, there is only opportunity.”
–Douglas MacArthur

Wednesday, July 26, 2017

“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.”
–Thomas Edison

Thursday, July 27, 2017

“Winners embrace hard work. They love the discipline of it, the trade-off they’re making to win. Losers, on the other hand, see it as punishment. And that’s the difference.”
–Lou Holtz

Friday, July 28, 2017

“Be the kind of person that you want people to think you are.”
–Socrates

Saturday, July 29, 2017

“If you want happiness for an hour take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help someone else.”
–Anonymous

Sunday, July 30, 2017

“It doesn’t matter if you try and try and try again, and fail. It does matter if you try and fail, and fail to try again.”
–Charles Kettering

Monday, July 31, 2017

“The road to Easy Street goes through the sewer.”
–John Madden

Tuesday, August 1, 2017

“It wasn’t raining when Noah built the ark.”
–Howard Ruff

Wednesday, August 2, 2017

“Don’t be afraid your life will end; be afraid that it will never begin.”
–Grace Hansen

Thursday, August 3, 2017

“Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”
–John Wooden

Friday, August 4, 2017

“Risk more than others think is safe. Dream more than others think is practical.”
–Howard Schultz

Saturday, August 5, 2017

“There are two educations. One should teach us how to make a living and the other how to live.”
–John Adams

Sunday, August 6, 2017

“People talk about getting lucky breaks in their careers. I’m living proof that the ‘lucky breaks’ theory is simply wrong. You get to make your own luck…. The world is run by those who show up…not those who wait to be asked.”
–Steve Blank

Monday, August 7, 2017

Purple Heart Day
“The only medal that I am certain I deserved is the Purple Heart.”
–Sen. Bob Kerrey (Medal of Honor recipient)

Tuesday, August 8, 2017

“Let me tell you the secret that has led me to my goals: my strength lies solely in my tenacity.”
–Louis Pasteur

Wednesday, August 9, 2017

“Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”
–George Addair

Thursday, August 10, 2017

“My first job was washing dishes in the basement of a nursing home for $2.10 an hour, and I learned as much about the value of hard work there as I ever did later.”
–Douglas Preston

Friday, August 11, 2017

“Ambition is the path to success. Persistence is the vehicle you arrive in.”
–Bill Bradley

Saturday, August 12, 2017

“I think the thing about that was I was always willing to work; I was not the fastest or biggest player but I was determined to be the best football player I could be on the football field and I think I was able to accomplish that through hard work.”
–Jerry Rice

Sunday, August 13, 2017

“A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.”
–Lao Tzu

Monday, August 14, 2017

Victory Day (commemorates the end of World War II)
“I don’t think journalists in World War II were objective about the Nazis, and I don’t think they should have been.”
–Sebastian Junger

Tuesday, August 15, 2017

“We live in the kind of society where, in almost all cases, hard work is rewarded.”
–Neil deGrasse Tyson

Wednesday, August 16, 2017

“The greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition.”
–Martha Washington

Thursday, August 17, 2017

“Music expresses that which cannot be put into words.”
–Victor Hugo

Friday, August 18, 2017

Statehood Day (Hawaii)
“Hawaii is not a state of mind, but a state of grace.”
–Paul Theroux

Saturday, August 19, 2017

“A man who gives you less than what he has to give is telling you what he thinks of you, and telling you what he thinks of himself.”
–Pete Carill

Sunday, August 20, 2017

“When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.”
–Henry Ford

Monday, August 21, 2017

“I’m not happy on vacation. In those rare times when I have three hours with no work I have to do, I’m terribly uncomfortable.”
–Scott Adams, Dilbert creator

Tuesday, August 22, 2017

“I think of doing a series as very hard work. But then I’ve talked to coal miners, and that’s really hard work.”
–William Shatner

Wednesday, August 23, 2017

“Faith moves mountains, but you have to keep pushing while you’re praying.”
–Mason Cooley

Thursday, August 24, 2017

“Failure is success if we learn from it.”
–Malcolm Forbes

Friday, August 25, 2017

“I never dreamt of success. I worked for it.”
–Estee Lauder

Saturday, August 26, 2017

Women’s Equality Day
“The best protection any woman can have… is courage.”
–Elizabeth Cady Stanton

Sunday, August 27, 2017

Lyndon Johnson Day
“The American city should be a collection of communities where every member has a right to belong. It should be a place where every man feels safe on his streets and in the house of his friends.”
–Lyndon Johnson

Monday, August 28, 2017

“When you miss a shot, never think of what you did wrong. Take the next shot thinking of what you must do right.”
–Tony Alfonso

Tuesday, August 29, 2017

“Luck can only get you so far.”
–J.K. Rowling

Wednesday, August 30, 2017

“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”
–Alexander Graham Bell

Thursday, August 31, 2017

“Don’t live the same year 75 times and call it a life.”
–Robin Sharma

Friday, September 1, 2017

“Luck? I don’t know anything about luck. I’ve never banked on it, and I’m afraid of people who do. Luck to me is something else: hard work — and realizing what is opportunity and what isn’t.”
–Lucille Ball

Saturday, September 2, 2017

“Anything in life worth having is worth working for.”
–Andrew Carnegie

Sunday, September 3, 2017

“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.”
–Benjamin Franklin

Monday, September 4, 2017

Labor Day
“I believe in the dignity of labor, whether with head or hand; that the world owes no man a living but that it owes every man an opportunity to make a living.”
–John D. Rockefeller

Tuesday, September 5, 2017

“It isn’t hard to be good from time to time. What is tough is being good every day.”
–Willie Mays

Wednesday, September 6, 2017

“My family would be supportive if I said I wanted to be a Martian, wear only banana skins, make love to ashtrays, and eat tree bark.”
–Casey Affleck

Thursday, September 7, 2017

“Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler.”
–Albert Einstein

Friday, September 8, 2017

“There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning.”
–Louis L’Amour

Saturday, September 9, 2017

“The common denominator of success is in forming the habit of doing the things that failures don’t like to do.”
–Albert Gray

Sunday, September 10, 2017

National Grandparents Day
“Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do. Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children.”
–Alex Haley

Monday, September 11, 2017

Patriot Day
“These acts of mass murder were intended to frighten our nation into chaos and retreat.But they have failed; our country is strong.”
–George W. Bush

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

“Happiness is like a kiss. You must share it to enjoy it.”
–Bernard Meltzer

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

International Programmers’ Day
“Complexity kills. It sucks the life out of developers, it makes products difficult to plan, build and test, it introduces security challenges, and it causes end-user and administrator frustration.”
–Ray Ozzie

Thursday, September 14, 2017

“To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom.”
–Bertrand Russell

Friday, September 15, 2017

“I’m a big believer in the power of inexperience. It was the greatest asset I had when I started TFA. If I had known at the outset how hard it was going to be, I might never have started. –Wendy Kopp

Saturday, September 16, 2017

“The way to get started is to quit talking and start doing.”
–Walt Disney

Sunday, September 17, 2017

“You are never too good for anything. Always be willing to do everything.”
–Thomas Parkinson

Monday, September 18, 2017

Air Force Birthday
“The power of an air force is terrific when there is nothing to oppose it.”
–Winston Churchill

Tuesday, September 19, 2017

“In order to discover new lands, one must be willing to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.”
–Anonymous

Wednesday, September 20, 2017

“I would rather die of passion than of boredom.”
–Vincent Van Gogh

Thursday, September 21, 2017

Rosh Hashana
“Let our New Year’s resolution be this: we will be there for one another as fellow members of humanity, in the finest sense of the word.”
–Goran Persson

Friday, September 22, 2017

“The future belongs to those who prepare for it today.”
–Malcolm X

Saturday, September 23, 2017

“Your income is directly related to your philosophy, not the economy.”
–Jim Rohn

Sunday, September 24, 2017

Gold Star Mothers’ Day
“A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself.”
–Joseph Campbell

Monday, September 25, 2017

“I made a resolve then that I was going to amount to something if I could. And no hours, nor amount of labor, nor amount of money would deter me from giving the best that there was in me. And I have done that ever since, and I win by it. I know.”
–Harlan Sanders, founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken

Tuesday, September 26, 2017

“There are those who look at things the way they are, and ask why… I dream of things that never were, and ask why not? –Robert F. Kennedy

Wednesday, September 27, 2017

World Tourism Day
“Life is short, and the world is wide.”
–Simon Raven

Thursday, September 28, 2017

“Nature gave men two ends… one to sit on and one to think with. Ever since then man’s success or failure has been dependent on the one he used most.”
–George R. Kilpatrick

Friday, September 29, 2017

“Someday is not a day of the week.”
–Denise BrennanNelson

Saturday, September 30, 2017

“Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice.”
–William Jennings Bryan

Sunday, October 1, 2017

“Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more.”
–H. Jackson Brown Jr.”


Monday, October 2, 2017

“Luck is a dividend of sweat. The more you sweat, the luckier you get.”
–Ray Kroc

Tuesday, October 3, 2017

“Movies are hard work. The public doesn’t see that. The critics don’t see it. But they’re a lot of work. A lot of work.”
–Robert DeNiro

Wednesday, October 4, 2017

Feast of St Francis of Assisi
“St. Francis of Assisi taught me that there is a wound in the Creation and that the greatest use we could make of our lives was to ask to be made a healer of it.”
–Alan Paton

Thursday, October 5, 2017

“I knew that if I failed I wouldn’t regret that, but I knew the one thing I might regret is not trying.”
–Jeff Bezos

Friday, October 6, 2017

“If everything seems under control, you’re just not going fast enough.”
–Mario Andretti

Saturday, October 7, 2017

“People seldom do what they believe in. They do what is convenient, then repent.”
–Bob Dylan

Sunday, October 8, 2017

“Diligence is the mother of good luck.”
–Benjamin Franklin

Monday, October 9, 2017

Indigenous People’s Day
“All things share the same breath – the beast, the tree, the man… the air shares its spirit with all the life it supports.”
–Chief Seattle

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

“Everybody has a great idea for a startup, and so do their relatives, and they tell me, ‘You gotta build it.’ I say, ‘I have to believe in it.’ –Ashton Kutcher

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

“To climb steep hills requires a slow pace at first.”
–William Shakespeare

Thursday, October 12, 2017

“The biggest temptation is to settle for too little.”
–Thomas Merton

Friday, October 13, 2017

“I’m intimidated by the fear of being average.”
–Taylor Swift

Saturday, October 14, 2017

“If you focus on results you’ll never change. If you focus on change, you’ll get results.”
–Jack Dixon

Sunday, October 15, 2017

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
–Aristotle

Monday, October 16, 2017

Boss’s Day
“Don’t blame the boss. He has enough problems.”
–Donald Rumsfeld

Tuesday, October 17, 2017

“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”
–Anonymous

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

“If you don’t set goals, you can’t regret not reaching them.”
–Yogi Berra

Thursday, October 19, 2017

“This too, shall pass.”
–Anonymous

Friday, October 20, 2017

“They said, we have education, but what about jobs? So I started telling them, you should be taking a pledge, and the pledge should be: ‘I’m not a job seeker; I’m a job giver.’ Prepare yourself to be a job giver.”
–Muhammad Yunus

Saturday, October 21, 2017

“You know you are truly alive when you’re living among lions. –Karen Blixen

Sunday, October 22, 2017

“If you are willing to do more than you are paid to do, eventually you will be paid to do more than you do.”
–Anonymous

Monday, October 23, 2017

“Optimism is the one quality more associated with success and happiness than any other.”
–Brian Tracy

Tuesday, October 24, 2017

“If something is important enough, even if the odds are against you, you should still do it.”
–Elon Musk

Wednesday, October 25, 2017

“If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try.”
–Seth Godin

Thursday, October 26, 2017

“Entrepreneurship is neither a science nor an art. It is a practice.”
–Peter Drucker

Friday, October 27, 2017

“If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money.”
–Abigail Van Buren

Saturday, October 28, 2017

“If you are not embarrassed by the first version of your product, you’ve launched too late.”
–Reid Hoffman

Sunday, October 29, 2017

“Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.”
–Roald Dahl

Monday, October 30, 2017

“Never be afraid to try something new. Remember, amateurs built the ark. Professionals built the Titanic.”
–Anonymous

Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Halloween
“Fear is only as deep as the mind allows.”
–Anonymous

Wednesday, November 1, 2017

All Saints’ Day
“Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you.”
–Saint Augustine

Thursday, November 2, 2017

“Performance-wise, you really need to be down in the trenches; you need to do the hard work, for a lot of reasons: To build yourself as a performer, to get a sense of the audience, to work hard and to wonder, ‘Do I really want to do this?’ –Joan Jett

Friday, November 3, 2017

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.”
–Anonymous

Saturday, November 4, 2017

“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”
–Tony Robbins

Sunday, November 5, 2017

Daylight Saving Time ends
“Time is what we want most, but what we use worst.”
–William Penn

Monday, November 6, 2017

“There is no elevator to success — you have to take the stairs.”
–Anonymous

Tuesday, November 7, 2017

Election Day (New Jersey and Virginia governors)
“The vote is the most powerful instrument ever devised by man for breaking down injustice and destroying the terrible walls which imprison men because they are different from other men.”
–Lyndon Johnson

Wednesday, November 8, 2017

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”
–Harriet Tubman

Thursday, November 9, 2017

“Both my mother and I were determined that we weren’t going to stay on welfare. We always worked toward doing better, toward having a better life. We never had any doubts that we would.”
–Larry Ellison

Friday, November 10, 2017

Marine Corps Birthday
“The deadliest weapon in the world is a MARINE and his rifle!” –Gen. John Pershing

Saturday, November 11, 2017

Veterans Day
“I am convinced that America’s great sea of goodwill can be, in fact, a rising tide, a tide that could lift every veteran and every family of our wounded and fallen.”
–Admiral Michael Mullen

Sunday, November 12, 2017

“If you are lucky enough to find a way of life you love, you have to find the courage to live it.

–Bette Davis

Monday, November 13, 2017

“Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.”
–Goethe

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

“The rung of a ladder was never meant to rest upon, but only to hold a man’s foot long enough to enable him to put the other somewhat higher.”
–Thomas Huxley

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

“Think of what you have rather than of what you lack. Of the things you have, select the best and then reflect how eagerly you would have sought them if you did not have them.”
–Marcus Aurelius

Thursday, November 16, 2017

World Philosophy Day
“Philosophy is like trying to open a safe with a combination lock: each little adjustment of the dials seems to achieve nothing, only when everything is in place does the door open.”
–Ludwig Wittgenstein

Friday, November 17, 2017

“Flaming enthusiasm, backed by horse-sense and persistence, is the quality that most frequently makes for success.”
–Dale Carnegie

Saturday, November 18, 2017

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”
–Alice Walker

Sunday, November 19, 2017

World Toilet Day
“Certain things in life are more important than the usual crap that everyone strives for.”
–James Taylor

Monday, November 20, 2017

Africa Industrialization Day
“Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors.”
–African proverb

Tuesday, November 21, 2017

World Television Day
“All television is educational television. The question is: what is it teaching? –Nicholas Johnson

Wednesday, November 22, 2017

“The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary.”
–Vidal Sassoon

Thursday, November 23, 2017

Thanksgiving Day
“Do not indulge in dreams of having what you have not, but reckon up the chief of the blessings you do possess, and then thankfully remember how you would crave for them if they were not yours.”
–Marcus Aurelius

Friday, November 24, 2017

“Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be.”
–Grandma Moses

Saturday, November 25, 2017

“We ask ourselves: Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.”
–Marianne Williamson

Sunday, November 26, 2017

“People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it.”
–George Bernard Shaw

Monday, November 27, 2017

“In order to succeed you must fail so that you know what not to do the next time.”
–Anthony J. D’Angelo

Tuesday, November 28, 2017

“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.”
–Pablo Picasso

Wednesday, November 29, 2017

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.”
–Leo Tolstoy

Thursday, November 30, 2017

“My parents had always preached the virtues of hard work. But hard work is one thing; economic struggle is another.”
–Sargent Shriver

Friday, December 1, 2017

“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”
–Barack Obama

Saturday, December 2, 2017

International Day for the Abolition of Slavery
“Human history begins with man’s act of disobedience which is at the very same time the beginning of his freedom and development of his reason.”
–Erich Fromm

Sunday, December 3, 2017

“The history of the world is the history of a few people who had faith in themselves.”
–Swami Vivekananda

Monday, December 4, 2017

“Happy people are beautiful. They become like a mirror and they reflect that happiness.”
–Drew Barrymore

Tuesday, December 5, 2017

“Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle.”
–Abraham Lincoln

Wednesday, December 6, 2017

“Life’s too mysterious, don’t take it serious.”
–George Gershwin

Thursday, December 7, 2017

“No matter how long it may take us to overcome this premeditated invasion, the American people in their righteous might will win through to absolute victory.”
–Franklin Delano Roosevelt

Friday, December 8, 2017

“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.”
–Carl Jung

Saturday, December 9, 2017

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans. –John Lennon

Sunday, December 10, 2017

“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”
–William James

Monday, December 11, 2017

“Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did.”
–Newt Gingrich

Tuesday, December 12, 2017

“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person; he believed in me.”
–Jim Valvano

Wednesday, December 13, 2017

Chanukah/Hanukkah (first day)
“The proper response, as Hanukkah teaches, is not to curse the darkness but to light a candle.”
–Irving Greenberg

Thursday, December 14, 2017

“You can’t go around building a better world for people. Only people can build a better world for people. Otherwise it’s just a cage.”
–Terry Pratchett

Friday, December 15, 2017

“I think that my biggest attribute to any success that I have had is hard work. There really is no substitute for working hard.”
–Maria Bartiromo

Saturday, December 16, 2017

“Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.”
–Benjamin Disraeli

Sunday, December 17, 2017

Wright Brothers Day
“No flying machine will ever fly from New York to Paris.”
–Orville Wright

Monday, December 18, 2017

“Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.”
–Will Rogers

Tuesday, December 19, 2017

“Faith is the art of holding on to things your reason has once accepted, in spite of your changing moods.”
–C.S. Lewis

Wednesday, December 20, 2017

“If people knew how hard I worked to achieve my mastery, it wouldn’t seem so wonderful after all.”
–Michaelengo

Thursday, December 21, 2017

“If they can make penicillin out of moldy bread, they can sure make something out of you.”
–Muhammad Ali

Friday, December 22, 2017

“Courage is contagious. When a brave man takes a stand, the spines of others are stiffened.”
–Billy Graham

Saturday, December 23, 2017

“Talent is cheaper than table salt. What separates the talented individual from the successful one is a lot of hard work.”
–Stephen King

Sunday, December 24, 2017

Christmas Eve
“For it is good to be children sometimes, and never better than at Christmas, when its mighty Founder was a child Himself.”
–Charles Dickens

Monday, December 25, 2017

Christmas Day
“Peace on earth will come to stay, When we live Christmas every day.”
–Helen Steiner Rice

Tuesday, December 26, 2017

Kwanzaa (until Jan 1)
“The seven principles of Kwanzaa – unity, self-determination, collective work and responsibility, cooperative economics, purpose, creativity and faith — teach us that when we come together to strengthen our families and communities and honor the lesson of the past, we can face the future with joy and optimism.”
–William J. Clinton

Wednesday, December 27, 2017

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
–Ralph Waldo Emerson

Thursday, December 28, 2017

“Success is often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable.”
–Coco Chanel

Friday, December 29, 2017

“It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”
–Ann Landers

Saturday, December 30, 2017

“What would you attempt to do if you knew you would not fail? –Robert Schuller

Sunday, December 31, 2017

New Year’s Eve
“An optimist stays up until midnight to see the new year in. A pessimist stays up to make sure the old year leaves.”
–Bill Vaughn


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!2017 – Marriage: Hardcore Truth.

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HARDCORE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE!!! BY BISHOP DAVID OYEDEPO
1. There is nothing that threatens the security of a wife than the thought of another woman competing for the attention and affection of her husband. Nothing is more painful. Nothing is more disrespecting. Nothing is more insulting. Nothing is more belittling and degrading.
2. Marriage flourishes when the couple work together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score. Good marriages don’t just happen. They are a product of hard work.

3. Your children are watching you and forming lasting opinions on love, commitment, and marriage based on what they see in you. Give them hope. Make them look forward to marriage.
4. Husbands: The reason why other women look attractive is because someone is taking good care of them. Grass is always green where it is watered. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly. Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make a woman admirable and beautiful.
5. When a husband puts his wife first above everyone and everything except God, it gives his wife the sense of security and honor that every wife hungers for.
6. A successful marriage doesn’t require a big house, a perfect spouse, a million dollars or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment and selfless love and God at the center of it all.
7. Pray for your spouse every day; in the morning, in the afternoon and at evening. Don’t wait until there is a problem. Don’t wait until there is an affair. Don’t wait until something bad happens. Don’t wait until your spouse is tempted. Shield your spouse with prayer and cover your marriage with the fence of prayer.
8. The people you surround yourself with have a lot of influence on your marriage. Friends can build or break your marriage; choose them wisely.
9. One spouse cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is committed to destroying it. Marriage works when both husband and wife work together as a team to build their marriage.
10. Don’t take your spouse for granted. Don’t take advantage of your spouse’s meekness and goodness. Don’t mistake your spouse’s loyalty for desperation. Don’t misuse or abuse your spouse’s trust. You may end up regretting after losing someone that meant so much to you.
11. Beware of marital advice from single people. Regardless of how sincere their advice may be, most of it is theoretical and not derived from real life experiences. If you really need Godly advice, seek it from God-fearing, impartial and prayerful mature couples whose resolve has been tested by time and shaped by trials.
12. Dear wife, Don’t underestimate the power of the tongue on your marriage. The tongue has the power to crush your marriage or build it up. Don’t let the Devil use your tongue to kill your spouse’s image, self-confidence and aspirations. Let God use your tongue to build up your marriage and bless and praise your spouse.

Please, send this to as many couple as you know, love and care about… 

Also send to singles to help prepare their minds for marriage. God bless you. Good evening all.

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